Defining Family in
Today’s Culture: Today’s family is characterized by divorce,
co-habitation, single parents, homosexual unions and feminism.
Children are looked at as a burden, costing too much therefore the
fewer the better. Teens are seen as rebellious and are idolized in
culture. Men are consumed with self, hobbies, addictions and spend
little time with their families taking little responsibility for the
raising of children. Women are busy with careers, obsessed with
appearance and seek independence from the “oppression” of
The Biblical model of
family has been lost, not only in the culture at large, but even in
The Biblical Family Model is Lost: In Genesis, God gave us the model for marriage and family, Man is the head of the home (Gen. 1:26-27)(Gen. 2:18-25), leader, authority figure, spiritual shepherd to family, provider, protector. Woman is a helper to her husband (Gen. 2:18) keeper at home, assists him in educating the children, submissive, encourager, respects her husband, seeks to be productive and manage the home. (Proverbs 31). (Matt. 19:3-6) Jesus confirms it. (Joshua 24:15), purpose for family, to serve the Lord and glorify Him. The Scriptures of the Old Testament begin and end with the family. (Gen. 2:24- Malachi 4:6) The New Testament also begins and ends with family. (Matthew 1), (Revelation 19:6-9)
Psalm 127:1, “Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.”
Role of Men, Husbands and Fathers:
We believe that God has
established the man as the “head” of the family. He has the
responsibility as the “servant leader” of his wife and children
to lead them in times of regular family worship. The man needs a
wife as his helper, to show him respect and to honor him as the
leader of the household. The husband is to sacrificially love,
protect, provide for and cherish his wife. We believe as a husband
and father the man is to teach his wife and children by instruction
in biblical truths, by modeling Christlikeness and through life
application. He should demonstrate godly character, humble service,
loving discipline and spend quality time with his family. We believe
the best way he can love his children is to love his wife, their
mother for them to see and follow.
(Ephesians 5:25-33, 6:4) Husbands are to love their wives, as Christ loves the Church. A father is not to provoke his children to anger.
(Colossians 3:19) Husbands are to love their wives and not be harsh with them.
(1 Peter 3:7) Husbands are to be understanding, showing honor to their wives, so that you avoid sinning which will hinder your prayers.
Role of Women, Wives and Mothers:
We believe that God has
given the woman the role of wife and helper to her husband. She is
to show him respect, support him and submit to him as he leads the
home. We believe the Bible clearly indicates the woman is equal to
the man in every way but has a different role for her life than her
husband does. We believe mothers have been gifted to nurture, love
and care for their children in a special way. We therefore believe
that mothers should undertake their responsibilities at home and with
their children above all others outside of the home. We believe the
best way mothers can love their children is by first loving their
husbands and submitting to their leadership in the home. This
example will give the children a proper understanding of the biblical
model of the family.
(Proverbs 31) Women are to be trustworthy, seek to do good to her husband, provides well for the household, be well dressed, not a slob, industrious, generous, joyful, her husband and children bless her for her efforts.
(Ephesians 5:22-24) Wives should submit to the leadership of their husbands.
(1Peter 3:1-6) Wives are to be respectful in conduct towards their husbands, display a heart that loves the Lord and a gentle spirit.
(Titus 2:3-5) To teach younger wives to love their husbands, be self-controlled, pure and to work at home, with kindness and in submission to the husbands.
Role of Children:
We believe that life
begins at conception and is the work of God. Children are
responsible to obey and honor their parents. We believe it is
primarily the parent’s responsibility to teach and educate their
children not that of business or government. Children are
responsible for their own personal faith in, and relationship with
the Lord Jesus Christ and the faith of the parents cannot be imputed
to their children. Children are to participate in family worship and
should be encouraged to serve the Lord in some capacity.
Family Worship and Devotions:
(Gen. 18:17-19) Abraham,
(Gen. 35:1-3) Jacob,
(1 Peter 2:5)
(1 Tim. 4:13-16)
Building a “Heritage of Faithfulness”
Role of the Church: (Acts 4:42-47) We believe the role of the church is to assemble to worship the one true God of the Bible, teaching and equip believers, evangelize the lost, go on missions by taking the Gospel to those who have not heard it, fellowship together, encourage one another and bring discipline where sin abounds. The church is not to be used as the “Spiritual Foster Parent” to children. It is the Christian parent’s primary biblical responsibility to teach their children the Bible.
Role of the Family: Families point to a greater Spiritual reality. That is the relationship between Christ and the church, which is referred to as His bride. (Rev. 19:7-10) A family should worship together, tithe, evangelize the lost together, parents are to educate and instruct their children, pray together and play together.